As a woman, you hear and engage in a lot of chatter about being 50. All the hooplah working your way up to that age, all the festivities reaching that age and all the glory being that age. Fifty is pretty cool, fifty is NOT over the hill. Personally I did not have any issues with that particular number. For that matter, I don't recall having an issue with any number. 50 is sophisticated and smart, its sassy and sexy and it's chuck full of confidence. 50 is polite when necessary and a total bitch if its called for--without apology. 50 is wise. 50 is secure in who she is and in what she wants.
50 and the workforce. This is not her first rodeo. A woman in her 50's doesn't sit quietly in a meeting unless it suits her. If she has something to say she can and WILL say it. Listen up, there's a ton of experience behind what she's saying, you just might learn something. At 50, a woman has no grandiose ideas that equal pay for the same job has ever existed in the workforce or will ever exist in the workforce in her lifetime. Yes, yes.... she knows all about the bra-burning-bonfire, blah blah blah. Do some women make more than some men? Yes. Does inequity still exist? Yes. How does she know? It's happened to her. She knew it, saw the proof of it and could do nothing about it. She will not divulge her sources. Having said that, at 50 a woman now knows that killing herself in any given position is not always worth it. She knows when it is worth it and will work accordingly, something the younger sisters should pay attention to.
50 and dating. If you are 50 and single many young studs, and those who think they are, come at you like you are first prize at the county fair. Its a laughable.
"Do you date younger? " Look son, you are 25 years old if you are telling the truth, what on earth would I want with you? You don't know anything and think you know everything, you have no polish, you don't have a decent job or own your own home, I question whether you even shave yet and you've not yet learned the art of delayed gratification. So WHAT, pray tell, would I do with the likes of you? It's past your bedtime boy, lights out.
A single woman in her 50's may or may not want a relationship. She's had her children, probably tried marriage once already and is either well established in a career or resuming a career she had before children. There are no clocks ticking gentleman. If she wants a relationship its to enhance an already full life so you must bring your A-game. She will have 50 shades of expectations so be ready. Have a job, a home and be established in life because she's going to be. She's wise and will call you out on your game before you play it. Be honest, sincere and a decent human being or you don't stand a chance.
50 and domestic responsibilities. A woman in her 50's knows how to clean the house, cook a great meal and can probably mow the lawn. She also knows that there are better uses for her time. If you live under that roof you'd better pitch in or pay up because she's NOT doing it all anymore. It's about partnership. You both matter.
50 and family. A woman in her 50's has come up for air after some tough and busy years raising children. Her work isn't done but she's beginning to see the buds come to full bloom on her family tree. She's proud and full of love as she watches her children achieve goals in education and in personal achievement. Some may be blessed to watch their family grow with sons inlaw, daughters inlaw and grandchildren. Her hard work is paying off. If she is married she will, once again, be able to enjoy quality time spent with her husband without the constant responsibility and interruptions of having a young family. The family dynamic changes but is more fulfilling than ever before. As fulfilling as it can be it may become equally as challenging and/or heartbreaking for her as she see's her own parents age and, in some cases, experience failing health.
50 and friendships. A woman in her 50's has established friendships. She has gone thru a life long process of weeding thru those who use, abuse or just don't care. She's carefully selected an inner circle of quality men and women who are tried and true and have stood the test of time. This core group supports her, encourages her and is there for her thru thick and thin and they always will be. She values them as she does her own family. She is blessed.
With wisdom and confidence and the blessings of a half century's worth of work behind her, female 50-somethings are in a good place. Bring on the next 50!!
XO
-Michelle
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A light mist filled the air as she pulled out into traffic. Wipers were necessary, or were they? It was that annoying level of mist that didn't quite fill the windshield enough to make the wipers completely necessary but it was too much mist to see as clearly as she'd like without them. Decisions were so much harder for her now. Nothing was easy.
Her heart beat slowly but with pounding determination as though it would escape her chest at any moment. It was audible. It quickly picked up speed as though it too were governed by the accelerator that urged her car forward in time with the traffic. Her eyes welled. Her chest heaved, anxiety set in. She spoke out loud "Deep breath, deep breath." but the words came out sounding like the high pitched whimper of a wounded animal. Her effort to maintain rhythmic breathing, to find anything resembling a calmness failed. With quickening breath she frantically searched her soul for confidence that just wasn't there. Focus... focus. Breathe deep, remember what he always said- take route 1, it's easier that way. Just follow the signs. The rain, the wipers, and the heart were beating in concert but not in harmony. Nothing was right. Everything was difficult. Rain and traffic and the idiotic wipers that first were necessary and then were unnecessary. Anxiety intensified and filled the air like thick smoke as oxygen seemed to disappear. She could not breathe. She could not find the rhythm of breath and it choked her. Memories began to flood her mind and the tears just streamed and streamed and streamed. Blinded by anxiety and heartache she pulled over.
Her head dropped to her hands and rested on the steering wheel and she cried. She cried and cried, her chest heaving, her gut twisting. The emotional pain turned physical and her chest tightened, everything hurt. She could not catch her breath. The rain pounded the windshield, the tears flooded her eyes. She could not see and the wipers could not move fast enough to make a difference. Nothing was easy, everything was too hard. Nothing worked right. She couldn't see, couldn't breathe and the fucking wipers were fucking useless. Why? Why? Nothing makes sense!
He would have been with her on this journey. He was her best friend, her love. He was her security. He protected her and made her feel safe and now he was gone. Was he gone? She was confused, she was afraid and she just didn't understand. She felt naked and exposed. How could he be gone? She was hurt and incapable of the simplest tasks. Driving was hard. Vision was blurred thru tears that wouldn't stop streaming. The wipers kept going. They beat against the windshield keeping time with something, something that didn't make sense. Nothing made sense but the damn wipers kept going. Her heart kept beating harder and harder and harder.
And she cried........
xo
Michelle
